Teens and violence factsheet
- Domestic and family violence can happen in any relationship and is not just physical
- Teenagers can be affected by violence they witness, experience directly, or learn about from others
- Domestic and family violence may bring up a range of physical, psychological and emotional responses for teenagers
- One of the best ways you can support a teenager is by providing them with a positive adult-teenager relationship
- Resources in this toolkit were developed with Reach Out, Australia's leading online mental health organisation for young people and their parents.
What is domestic and family violence?
Domestic and family violence is violence that happens in a relationship. It can be physical, but also takes many other forms. Domestic and family violence affects everyone around it, whether they experience it directly or witness the violence or signs of violence.
Domestic and family violence:
- Happens when one person in a relationship hurts another or makes them feel unsafe
- Involves a pattern of control, where ongoing abuse stops someone from feeling free to live life as they choose
- Is not just physical – it can be emotional, financial, spiritual, social, legal, reproductive, and can include other forms of abuse such as stalking and neglect
- Can happen in any kind of relationship — not just with partners, husbands and wives or boyfriends and girlfriends (intimate partners)
- Can happen in any location, not just the home
How might a teenager experience violence?
There are many ways a teenager can experience violence. They may experience it themselves, witness it happening to some close to them or a person on the street. They may have a friend confide in them about experiences of violence at home.
A teenager will be impacted by violence if they:
- Experience violence and abuse themselves
- Witness violence or its consequences (injuries, distress, damaged property)
- Hear about someone’s experience of violence
- Play the role of carer, protector or supporter of someone impacted by violence
- Live in a violent home or are regularly in a violent environment
How might a teenager be impacted by violence?
Even when they are not experiencing violence directly, exposure to violence puts teenagers at risk. They may engage in risk-taking or self-medicating behaviour, this is often to block out bad memories or numb emotional pain. Trying to stay away from the home may put them in unsafe situations. Having to take on adult responsibilities for themselves or younger family members can create emotional and psychological burdens.
A teenager may respond to these impacts of violence by experiencing:
- Anger, aggression and lashing out
- Trouble sleeping, nightmares, bed wetting and chronic tiredness
- Anxiety, depression and panic
- Alcohol or drug misuse
- Self-harming behaviour
- Difficulties with school and disengaging from school
- Avoidance of social situations or avoiding home
A teenager may respond to impacts of violence by experiencing anger, aggression, lashing out, trouble sleeping, nightmares, anxiety, depression and panic.
How can I support a teenager exposed to violence?
The best thing you can do is provide them with a positive adult-teenager relationship. Be an open and unconditional listener, allow them to participate in the process of seeking professional support and making safety plans. Find ways to create opportunities for positive and trusting relationships.
Other things you can do include:
- Ask how they are feeling, focus on listening, let them know that you are fully there for them
- Let them know there are support options available to them
- Don’t speak negatively of abusive family members, but let them know that violence and abuse is never ok
- With their input, seek professional advice and support
- Model positive relationships by being respectful and not aggressive when interacting with others
- Help them get involved in things that they enjoy and that boost self-esteem and mental wellbeing, such as hobbies, sports, and regular exercise
- Where possible keep them safe from violence
What if I need support?
Supporting someone impacted by violence can be upsetting. Know that you don’t have to do it on your own. You can call 1800RESPECT on 1800 737 732 for information, counselling and referral. Remember that you are better able to support when you feel supported yourself.
Get in touch with ReachOut, Australia's leading online mental health organisation for young people and their parents.