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Using violence

  • People who are violent in their relationships always have a choice about their behaviour
  • Admitting responsibility takes strength and courage and is the first step to better relationships
  • There are services that can help you to learn new ways of relating to your family and loved ones

Violent behaviour: you have a choice

We all make choices about how we act, even if we’re not aware of making these choices. Saying that you lost control, had a few too many drinks or were provoked is a way of avoiding responsibility for violence.

People who are violent in their relationships do have a choice about what they do. For example, people who are violent in their intimate relationships often do not behave this way with others. Their work colleagues or neighbours may never see their violent behaviour.  They can  control their behavior and manage their emotions differently in different settings. This means that they can also learn how to control their behavior and manage their emotions in their relationships with their partners.

Violence is not just physical